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You Don't LOOK Sick! 

Living Well with Invisible Chronic Illness

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In You Don’t LOOK Sick!: Living Well with Invisible Chronic Illness, the reader accompanies Joy Selak and her physician on a journey through the four challenging, but navigable, phases of chronic illness – Getting Sick, Being Sick, Grief and Acceptance and Living Well. Joy’s true-life stories and Dr. Overman’s commentary on each phase of the illness experience help readers to focus on building a meaningful life that contains illness as opposed to a life filled with resistance, frustration and fear. Short chapters and straightforward language lead those who are weary and dispirited to discover that it is possible to live well, even if you can’t get well. The book is illuminating for patients with a variety of chronic illnesses as well as their physicians, caregivers, friends and family. 
You Don’t LOOK Sick! addresses such practical aspects of chronic illness as:
  • Finding the right doctor and becoming the best patient
  • Managing chronic pain
  • Coping with grief and the loss of function
  • Winning battles with health and disability insurers
  • Countering the social bias against the chronically ill
  • Discovering giving your gifts as a key to illness management
  • Learning how to ‘step out of the box’ of illness
  • Weaving your own web of wellness
  • Recognizing the limitations of chronic illness care and charting a path for change


In addition to true stories, dialogue, humor, examples, and analogy the authors provide other helpful road maps, such as Joy's Top Ten List, Dr. Overmans Travel Tips for each phase, abundant patient resources and a contributed article by Dr. Bob Crittendon on the importance of the Affordable Care Act to the chronically ill. 

“Coming to terms with the reality of my illness was similar to accepting the death of a loved one. The life I had was gone and I had to bury it, grieve, and go on. Sometimes, on a bad day, I remember my old self and how my life used to be, and grow sad. However, most of the time, I love my life the way it is, good days and bad.”            Joy H. Selak



You Don’t LOOK Sick! is an essential tool for patients, families, and providers working with invisible chronic illness."
Patricia A. Fennell, MSW, LCSW-R; Author of Managing Chronic Illness Using the Four-Phase Treatment Approach 
“Inspiring and insightful personal journey of chronic illness by a young woman and her phy­sician. The message is an important one — overcoming the fear, loneliness and life-changing consequences of chronic illness is an achievable and essential goal for everyone as they work to restore their lives.”
John H. Klippel, MD, President and CEO, Arthritis Foundation 
“Living with a chronic illness changes every aspect of your life and when that illness is invis­ible, it changes your life in ways you never could have imagined. Easy-to-read and written from the heart by two experts—the patient and the physician—this excellent book provides the wisdom, understanding, and validation you need to take back the control your illness has taken away. The anecdotes, tips, and strategies give you the tools you need to survive and thrive despite your challenges and in the end, gives you hope for the future.” 
Shelley Peterman Schwarz, Award-winning writer and author of seven Tips for Making Life Easier books 
“This book was a tremendous help to me in adjusting to my own life with chronic illness. I consider it a must-read for sufferers like myself, for those who care for them, and for those who love them. You Don’t LOOK Sick! is unique in its approach because it gives us two per­spectives—that of the patient and the doctor. They understand our fears and frustrations and, most importantly, they lay out the steps we can take to find peace and well-being despite this unexpected turn in our lives. People who are facing chronic illness need easy-to-apply concrete tools to help adjust to this drastic life change, and this book provides those tools. You Don’t LOOK Sick! shows readers how to transform the trauma of chronic illness into a life of acceptance, purpose, and gratitude.” 
Toni Bernhard, Author of How to Be Sick: A Buddhist-Inspired Guide for the Chronically Ill and Their Caregivers


“I’ve learned that having a chronic illness is not a prison sentence. It does not mean I must spend the rest of my life feeling depressed and angry, locked away from the world inside my little sick box. It does not mean that I am useless and no longer have any gifts to share, but it may mean that I must develop some new ones.”            Joy H. Selak

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